Birthday season is coming up in my children’s social circle. For me, this means thinking more about egg and dairy, as my eldest child is allergic to egg and cow’s milk protein. During this time we find ourselves in many different social situations, at homes, at the park, and at café/restaurants celebrating birthdays.
I’m the sort of person that does not like to go on and on about my son’s allergies, instead, I’d rather go about managing the best we can and focus on more exciting things. I never expect the host of parties to go out of their way to exclude all allergenic foods or even specifically cater to meet my son’s needs. We usually find suitable food wherever we go. I also take suitable food with us which includes a cake or muffin just in case.
Most of our friends, through their own accord, go to the trouble of providing suitable food and cake options as they’ve known us for a while now. There was a time when a few friends witnessed an allergic reaction at a café we were at….Let’s just say it was unpleasant to witness and ended with a large vomit on the floor and very apologetic waitresses trying to make up for their miscommunication. So maybe this is part of the reason why these great friend’s of ours try and look after my son.
I’m thinking my attitude will need to change slightly, and not be so relaxed, as my son gets older and attends parties without me. I have every faith that my son will do fine with choosing suitable food, as he has a great understanding of his dietary requirements. However, there are some foods that can be made suitable which may become sources of confusion.
When the day comes (probably next year with starting school) when I will not attend parties with my son, I will RSVP with a note about the dietary requirements in writing and/or verbally just so the host is aware. I will most likely continue to provide a suitable cake if the host does not. I would hate for my son to miss out on cake as this is a significant part of birthdays. I really hope my son grows out of his allergies as per the expectation!!!!!!
How do you maximise the celebrations with your child who has allergies? What do you do with your child so they can be safe at parties without you? Please share your comments below.
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